"I have decided to start this trend and inspire others."
An Indian woman has announced that she will be marrying herself in a traditional Hindu ceremony on June 11, 2022.
Kshama Bindu says she will get married at a temple in Vadodara, Gujarat.
The 24-year-old will participate in the traditional ceremony as well as the pre-wedding rituals.
After the wedding, Kshama will go to Goa for her honeymoon.
Kshama said: “Many people tell me I’m a great catch. I tell them, ‘I caught myself’.”
On her intentions, Kshama said she plans to break stereotypes and inspire other who are “tired of finding true love”.
Kshama, who identifies as bisexual, also claimed that her marriage will be the first instance of sologamy in India.
She said: “At one point in my life, I realised that I don’t require a prince charming because I am my own queen.
“I want the wedding day, but not the next day. That is why I have decided to marry myself on June 11.
“I will dress up like a bride, take part in rituals, my friends will attend my wedding and then I will come back to my house instead of going with the groom.”
Kshama said by marrying herself, she is dedicating her life to “self-love”.
“Self-marriage is a commitment to being there for yourself, to choosing the livelihood and lifestyle that will help you grow and blossom into the most alive, beautiful, and deeply happy person you can be.
“It’s my way of showing that I’m accepting all the different parts of me, especially the parts of myself that I have tried to deny or disown such as my weaknesses – be they physical, mental or emotional. For me, this marriage is really a deep act of self-acceptance.
“What I’m trying to say is that I accept myself – all of me, even the parts that don’t look pretty.
“I have already booked a pandit (priest) to solemnise my marriage.
“I have observed that unlike in the West, self marriages are not popular in India.
“Hence, I have decided to start this trend and inspire others. People may not like my idea, but I am confident that I am doing the right thing.”
Kshama’s wedding plans have stirred debate and have led to accusations that it is a publicity stunt, but the Indian woman says:
“I just want to break stereotypes and inspire others to love themselves.
“There are people who are tired of finding love or getting divorced multiple times.
“Being a bisexual, I was also in love with a man and a woman in the past. But now, I want to give all the love to myself.”
The Indian woman says her parents have accepted her wish to marry herself.
“My mom said, ‘Oh, you always think of something new’.
“But my parents, who are very open-minded, took it in their stride. They said, ‘As long as it makes you happy, we’re fine with it’.”
However, experts said that self-marriage does not have any legal standing in India.
High Court advocate Krishnakant Vakharia said:
“As per Indian laws, you cannot marry yourself. There has to be two persons in a marriage. Sologamy is not legal.”
Another senior lawyer Chandrakant Gupta said: “The Hindu Marriage Act uses the terminology ‘either of the spouse’, which simply means that there must be two persons to complete the marriage. Sologamy will never pass the legal scrutiny.”