“Women are not born to fulfil anyone’s fantasy.”
Actor Hania Aamir has reignited conversations around women’s autonomy and online scrutiny by sharing a powerful video from a recent public address.
The clip, posted on her Instagram, featured moments from her speech at the 16 Days of Activism Against Digital Violence event held in Islamabad.
In the caption, Aamir wrote without hesitation: “Women are not born to fulfil anyone’s fantasy.”
She followed this with a deeply personal reflection, stating: “Somewhere along the way, I was made to feel like being too much was a flaw.”
The actor elaborated that she was often labelled “too loud. Too soft. Too ambitious. Too visible. Too many things at once.”
The video came from an event she attended in December 2025, months after being appointed Pakistan’s National Goodwill Ambassador for UN Women.
Sharing why the moment mattered to her, Aamir reflected on her younger self and the confusion she once carried.
“When I was younger, I thought something was wrong with me because I did not fit the version of a woman the world seemed comfortable with.”
She described standing on stage as a defining emotional moment, saying the teenage girl inside her felt stunned.
Aamir concluded that realisation with clarity, writing: “Because all along, I was never the problem. The boxes were.”
Known for her outspoken digital presence, Aamir has often addressed public scrutiny, especially directed at women in entertainment.
Her role as goodwill ambassador places her among notable South Asian figures, including Muniba Mazari, Farhan Akhtar and Sania Mirza.
The global campaign she addressed ran from November 25 to December 10, 2026, focusing on ending digital violence against women.
This year’s discussions highlighted growing threats linked to artificial intelligence, including catfishing, image manipulation and misinformation.
During her speech, Aamir spoke candidly about growing up under constant online observation and judgment.
She said she was made to feel inadequate saying: “I was a woman who had a voice and was not acting like an underdog but a go-getter.”
Addressing the audience, she acknowledged the emotional toll of being criticised for ambition rather than encouraged.
She credited the UN platform for reaffirming something she had always needed to hear.
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She said it reminded her that existing on her own terms was “absolutely fine.”
“We are all different human beings, and we need human rights.”
She also highlighted the unequal standards faced by women and men in public life.
Aamir noted that women are questioned for doing many things, while men are celebrated for the same.
She observed pointedly: “No matter how much women do, the headline will still be her marriage.”
For men, she added, doing “many things” is often described as impressive and admirable.
Hania Aamir concluded with a message rooted in self-determination and dignity.
She said: “We exist exactly how we want to. Not for approval. Not for comfort. Not to fit anyone’s mould. Just as we are. And that is more than enough.”
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