What You Need to Know about Having a Threesome

Threesomes, also known as ménage à trois, have gained significant popularity as a fantasy among couples.

A threesome is when a group of three people join together for sexual pleasure.

It can be a way to explore new modes of sexuality, please your partner, spice up your relationship and satisfy your sexual fantasies.

A couple can invite someone of any gender to play with them.

However, in the context of the South Asian community on monogamy, it can be challenging.

In South Asian culture, individuals are often raised with the belief that a single partner is the norm, and once married or in a committed relationship, exclusivity is expected.

While specific statistics on the popularity of threesomes in the South Asian community are not readily available, the increased exposure to sexual content has sparked interest in exploring such fantasies.

According to a study conducted by 3Fun, the fastest-growing app for people seeking three-person relationships, newly married couples are more likely to engage in a threesome.

Whilst this study does not represent the South Asian community specifically, it does highlight how prevalent threesomes are becoming in the modern world we live in.

The accessibility of information and the internet, including adult websites, has contributed to the orientation of diverse sexual fantasies in the South Asian community.

Additionally, Bollywood films have become more explicit, challenging traditional norms that once limited portrayals to modesty and heavy makeup.

As relationships evolve over time, it is not uncommon to experience curiosity about the sensations one might encounter with another individual.

It’s natural to find someone attractive and entertain thoughts of physical contact.

However, acting upon these desires can be intimidating, as the potential consequences and the fear of crossing boundaries may weigh heavily.

In some relationships, when things become a little stale, it’s easy for individuals to wonder about involving other people in their relationships.

Some couples turn to their friend circle to have a threesome. However, it is worth noting the risks associated with this.

Finding the Right Person

To find the right individuals to have a threesome with, you may want to consider exploring swinger communities that provide a safe space to connect with like-minded people.

There are numerous swinger websites and events available to enhance your experiences.

Consider visiting platforms like Killing Kittens, Dominium Vita, and Fab Swingers to connect with similar-minded individuals.

Furthermore, the digital landscape offers convenient options for finding thrilling threesomes.

By downloading apps such as Threesome Group and 3Fun, you can create a profile, browse through potential matches, and embark on an exciting journey to find a compatible partner for your thrilling threesome adventure.

These apps provide a convenient and discreet platform to connect with others who share similar interests, ensuring a safe and enjoyable exploration of your desires.

How to Turn a Fantasy into Reality

The sheer thought of having a threesome can be exciting, but how can we turn a fantasy into a reality?

Once you have found someone with common ground to who your partner and you are attracted, make sure the other person is also attracted to you both.

It is also important to discuss what you seek from the experience. All three participants need to be happy.

If there are any questions or thoughts you need clarifying, this would be an excellent time to speak up.

As a threesome is a thrilling experience, it can bring up various emotions, so it is crucial boundaries and expectations are discussed beforehand with your partner.

Setting Boundaries

Are there any boundaries or limits that you and your partner have established in your relationship?

For example, you may consider certain acts, like kissing, to be too intimate, or engaging in sexual activities with someone of a specific gender may be off-limits.

Regarding climaxing, what are your guidelines? Is it acceptable for your partner to ejaculate inside another person?

If another individual is involved, is it permissible for them to ejaculate inside or for the person to swallow?

It’s crucial to communicate with your partner during a threesome to ensure everyone’s comfort and consent.

Having clear rules beforehand helps provide reassurance, but navigating unexpected situations during passionate moments can present different challenges.

Preparing for a Threesome

It’s time to secure a venue and ensure you make an effort to look your best, as nobody appreciates someone who appears disinterested.

Take your time to indulge in a bath, apply a spritz of cologne, savour a glass of sparkling wine, create a romantic ambience in the room, and have enticing body oil ready for a sensual massage to calm any nerves associated with your first threesome experience.

Remember to have an ample supply of condoms, as prioritising safe sex is paramount.

Now, patiently await your date’s arrival.

When they arrive, offer them a drink and inquire about their well-being.

Once everyone is comfortably at ease, dim the lights, and turn up the heat!

Time to Play

Maintain open and continuous communication with each other and the person joining you.

Check if everyone is comfortable, and establish a safe word to use if anyone feels overwhelmed or emotions run riot.

Take the time to refocus, reconnect, and reaffirm to each other that this is a mutually desired experience and that you both wish to continue.

If you’re all having a blast, feel free to continue and create unforgettable memories together.

Afterwards, remember that the person who joined you is not just a plaything but a person.

Take a moment to ensure they are okay and express gratitude for the evening as they prepare to leave.

Aftercare

It is crucial for you and your partner to have a conversation about the events that transpired, how it was for both of you and any feelings that arose during the experience.

Trust and respect among all participants are essential. Ensuring that everyone feels comfortable and respected throughout the encounter is paramount.

The frequency of engaging in such activities is entirely up to you both.

You may decide to reserve it for special occasions, using the memory of your passionate night to intensify your sexual relationship and lust for one another.

Alternatively, if you enjoyed the experience and feel curious about further exploring this lifestyle, you can discuss it together.

Remember, as consenting adults, you have the opportunity to enhance your connection in ways that feel right for you.

Many men and women need a little more spice in their lives including sexually, mentally and physically.

Above all, open and honest communication is crucial.

Discuss your desires, boundaries, and expectations with all parties involved before engaging in a threesome.

Establish clear guidelines, such as safe sex practices, emotional limits, and what is and isn’t comfortable for everyone involved.

Remember that engaging in a threesome is a personal decision and may not be suitable for everyone or every relationship.

And finally, it’s important to respect your own boundaries and the boundaries of others involved.

Harsha Patel is an erotica writer who adores the subject of sex, and realising sexual fantasies and lust through her writing. Having gone through challenging life experiences as a British South Asian woman from an arranged marriage with no choice to an abusive marriage and then a divorce after 22 years, she started her journey to explore how sex plays a significant role in relationships and its power to heal. You can find her stories and more on her website here.