"Shame on you.”
In a podcast, Raheela Mahmood and her son engaged in a heated discussion about children requiring boundaries from their parents.
The viral podcast snippet was uploaded on her Instagram page.
Known as Mama Jee online, Raheela questioned the very concept of setting boundaries, expressing her disapproval as to why a child would ask for them.
She argued this idea on the basis that parents have sacrificed so much for their children. She criticised the idea of boundaries and said:
“Why would you ask for boundaries in your prime from us when we have sacrificed our prime and our youth for you?”
She also mentioned that her other son, Ahmed, was confronted by his white friends.
They found it odd that he hadn’t drawn clear boundaries with his parents regarding school grades.
Raheela expressed her disapproval of this and asked if she could pay his fee, why couldn’t she ask for grades?
She further added: “And when he needs his laundry and wants to be fed then he remembers his mother.
“Shame on you.”
Raheela said this to anyone who asks for boundaries, claiming that parents need their children.
She furthered this with the claim that some parents are also emotionally or financially weak.
Most viewers disagreed with Raheela’s views, as many related to the importance of respecting boundaries within their own families.
One said: “It’s extremely uncomfortable when my mother barges into my room without knocking.”
A lot of netizens also criticised Raheela Mahmood, suggesting that she displayed guilt-tripping, entitlement and narcissistic tendencies.
One stated: “Narcissistic parents take their children as an extension of themselves.”
Another comment read: “Creating boundaries doesn’t mean hating your parents. It means putting yourself first without feeling guilty and living under their control.”
While the majority of comments disagreed with Raheela’s perspective, a few agreed with her point
One user said: “Boundaries are a Western concept that couldn’t necessarily be fully applied in Pakistani culture, which is rooted in Islam and emphasises respect for parents.”
Another said:
“Parents and children should never have boundaries.”
“Children can never fully repay their parents for their sacrifices and reciprocating their love emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially should come naturally.”
The podcast sparked contrasting opinions among viewers. While some agreed with her stance, many commenters emphasised the importance of boundaries.
Many also related their own experiences with boundary and privacy breaches by parents.
The comments reflected the differing perspectives on the topic of boundaries within Pakistani culture and the complexities of parent-child relationships.
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