"I have to eat every day but I wouldn’t have sex every day"
Food and sex play a very important role in life. So, would you rather have a partner who satisfies you with good sex and terrible in the kitchen or someone who is bad in bed but feeds you well?
DESIblitz decided to play a quick game of would you rather.
Stereotypically, men are thought as to be more promiscuous than women and needier for sex.
This could be due to evolution.
Males have evolved to be sexually promiscuous, as they do not have any biological barrier preventing them passing their genes. Whereas women have limited eggs and have to wait until she is through with her pregnancy.
It may be a result of society; men were allowed to be more sexually open and express their sexual desires. Maybe both sexes desire lots of good sex but society told women to be monogamous.
It could be a neurological setting. A little while back, The Telegraph reported that men may be programmed to seek out sex more, due to neurones that they have but women lack.
In an ever-changing society, women are allowed to express their sexual needs, as well as break free from the shackles forcing them to serve men.
Sex vs. Domestication
In a South Asian society, however, the tradition of the wife serving her man is a little more embedded. The ideal daughter-in-law is someone who can serve a mother’s son well, someone who can take care of him. So, unfortunately for some men, if the rotis aren’t round she isn’t even an option worth considering.
The ideal daughter-in-law is someone who can serve a mother’s son well, someone who can take care of him. So, unfortunately for some men, if the rotis aren’t round she isn’t even an option worth considering.
The nation now discusses sex more than often as it deemed crucial for a good relationship, but the Asian culture stresses the significance of a good ‘housewife’. This led us to ask, what is more important for the Asian man: good food or good sex?
Who Picked Sex?
“You can replace food with take-out and I can cook anyway. You can’t replace good sex unless you have an affair and no one wants to do that,” said Jay.
When we added possible future children that would need to be fed and enforced the inflexible nature of these two hypothetical possibilities, he remained true to his answer:
“If you loved someone, cooking for them and looking after them and your family wouldn’t matter or even be a problem.”
Nirmal also chose sex:
“Sex is important for a good relationship; not just for intimacy but as a stress reliever. There are plenty of other options for feeding yourself but only really one for sex.”
“Great sex is an integral part of a good relationship. As somewhat of a fitness fanatic good food isn’t really an option for me six days out of the seven so sex is the only thing that keeps me sane.”
“All jokes aside I would always choose sex over food as it is much more satisfying and gratifying.”
He began to faintly whimper: “even if that means no more cheat days”.
Men leaning towards sex could show us that there is less pressure for Asian women to be the perfect housewife, indicating a change in social expectations.
Sex for Asian Women
We decided to get the women’s verdict on this.
Sim predicted men would pick food and her justification was:
“I don’t see sex being a game changer. How bad can sex be for men as isn’t gratification easier for them anyway? So I think men would choose food, especially Asian men as a lot of them are more traditional and would naturally expect her to cook.”
When we asked her the question, she coyly responded with: “I can masturbate. But if I can’t eat, I will get hangry and murder them. I would like my man to cook so I pick food.”
“I can masturbate. But if I can’t eat, I will get hangry and murder them. I would like my man to cook so I pick food.”
A very rare case, who agreed with Sim, is Nav*, who also picked food. He justified his opinion with: “I have to eat
“I have to eat every day but I wouldn’t have sex every day. Plus, your sex drive goes down but your food drive and hunger does not, our kids would also be healthy and would me and her.”
When we asked him if cooking for himself was an option, he kindly ignored the question and continued with: “If she’s that bad in bed, cheat.”, he laughed, “Just kidding. But masturbate instead or something.”
Women enjoy the idea of their other half contributing to the usual Asian expectation of knowing how to cook. This reflects the
This reflects the gender-neutral society we are edging closer to in this day and age, that there is a higher expectation for men knowing how to cook.
Priya, on the other hand, stated:
“I can imagine it to be quite frustrating if you weren’t sexually satisfied. I can feed myself. Being a stereotypical housewife isn’t ideal but to be honest, it is something I have always presumed I would have to adhere towards.”
Good Sex being More Popular
It is no denying that sex has the power to make you feel great, inside and out so the reason why it has been the prominent choice is evident.
Nowadays, women can freely express their sexual needs, however, it could be showcasing an integrated expectation that the woman presumes she would be the homemaker.
Although, pin this alongside men deviating against wanting an ideal ‘housewife’ and picking sex, maybe we are witnessing a shift in expectations in heterosexual relationships.
Is Choosing Sex being Impulsive?
Studies have shown that sexual deprivation can cause: anxiety and stress, make you more susceptible to colds and flu, make you more depressed. For men, there is a higher chance of future erectile dysfunction and an increased risk of prostate cancer.
One of the top three reasons to why men cheat in relationships is due to being sexually dissatisfied; where this is no justification, you can begin to understand why men lean towards picking good sex as the more important factor.
Those picking food could be too lazy to cook for themselves. Thankfully in a realistic world, both members of a relationship would learn and compromise for their partner.