Guneet Monga writes about Marrying at 39 & ‘Beta shaadi nahi ki’

Filmmaker Guneet Monga wrote a lengthy note about getting married at 39, revealing that her relatives would say: “Beta shadi nahi ki.”

Guneet Monga writes about Marrying at 39 & 'Beta shaadi nahi ki' f

"I was ready to commit from Day 1!"

Ahead of her wedding on December 12, 2022, filmmaker Guneet Monga opened up about getting married at 39 and the doubts she had when she could not find her soulmate.

She is getting married to Sunny Kapoor.

Guneet explained that after watching Shah Rukh Khan’s Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge, she searched for her ‘Raj’.

She admitted that she had doubts about whether she would ever find “the real hero” of her film and even cursed her body, intelligence, way of talking, education and job.

In a lengthy note, Guneet said:

“DDLJ ruined me… Like every girl growing up in the 90s, I too have been on a constant lookout for my Raj ever since I was 18.

“Anyone I dated, I ran to my friends to tell them this is it, I found my partner for the rest of my life.

“Some even indulged me a couple of times but mostly rolled their eyes and wanted to say, ‘Guneet please just take your time’.

“I never wanted to take my time, my magical forever started from Day 1. I was ready to commit from Day 1!”

She went on to reveal what her relatives would say to her.

“Everyone would always tell me, at the right time the right person will come into my life, and this irritated me the most!

“Why on earth has my time not come? It’s 40 years already, actually 39 but a round figure sounds better.

“And every time an extended family member would ask me, ‘Beta shaadi nahi ki (you are yet not married)’, I would reply, ‘Get one for me, I will get married tomorrow’, and they would have no answer.

“Just, ‘How can we find a match for you, you are from the film industry’. Now that is also my fault.”

“Honestly, I have cursed my body, my intelligence, my way of talking, my education, my middle-class life and even my job designation to be able to find someone!

“Wait, did I tell you, I have also tried missing the last Euro train but the doors shut automatically there and no one keeps their hand out to pull you in!

“Your hands will be cut my dear sisters.”

Addressing young women who have their own doubts about finding love, Guneet Monga added:

“My dear girlfriends, can I tell you, when the time is right and when that person comes into your life, you just know it.

“When he shows you how much YOU mean to him. That kind of love is everything. And then I found my real hero of my film. And while he is sure of me, this time I am in self-doubt. Really, you love me?

“Do you want to spend the rest of your life with me? Someone who is in the film industry, living in Bombay and half balding. With tears in his eyes, Sunny said, ‘you are perfect and I am so lucky that you are mine and the universe made you wait for us’.”

Dhiren is a journalism graduate with a passion for gaming, watching films and sports. He also enjoys cooking from time to time. His motto is to “Live life one day at a time.”