The 5 Secrets of Self Confidence

Self Confidence is something which separates the ordinary from the extraordinary. You may have the potential of an Everest climber, but you cannot move a stone without Self Confidence.

The 5 Secrets of Self Confidence

Success is the eldest daughter of Self Confidence.

Who doesn’t want to be successful?

We all strive hard to become successful individuals, hold prosperous careers, and live fulfilling lives.

Success is the eldest daughter of Self Confidence. But how can we achieve it?

Self Confidence can allow you to reach heights you thought were impossible, when all you need is a little motivational push.

Try out these simple secrets for just four weeks. Believe us, you will see amazing things happening around you.

1. Act Confident

“What the mind can conceive and believe, and the heart desire, you can achieve.” – Norman Vincent Peale

The 5 Secrets of Self Confidence

One of the imprudent things we always do that knocks our confidence is comparing ourselves with others.

The guy work with you may have an impressive personality yet he may have his own shortcomings. The confident lady who walks and talks with such gracefulness may be suffering from a nervous breakdown.

So, stop comparing. Know that each individual is unique. Even when you aren’t confident, fake it. Act like you are confident. Walk briskly and sit in the front row. When in uncertainty never fail to ask for help.

Be forward. No trembling knees or fidgeting fingers. Do not talk fast; try to maintain a slow pace.  Confident people and persons in authority talk less hurriedly.

2. Have Appealing Body Language

“The human body is the best picture of the human soul.” – Ludwig Wittgenstein

The 5 Secrets of Self Confidence

Body language speaks volumes before we even start to speak. Keep your chin up and walk with poise. Look straight into the eyes and speak. A lowered gaze and hunched back are signs of boredom and lack of confidence.

But make sure you look and not stare. Because overpowering eye contact can make the receiver psychologically uncomfortable.

Wear a beautiful smile across your face. Take the risk of smiling even at strangers. Confident people always smile.

Do not cross your arms. Always display open and welcoming gestures and postures.

3. Celebrate Yourself

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” – E.E. Cummings

The 5 Secrets of Self Confidence

Accept and value yourself. Don’t wait for the approval of others. Stop labelling yourself negatively.

Social research suggests that self-acceptance could lead to greater contentment with your life. Believe in yourself. If someone else could do why cannot you?

The ‘Voice of Judgment’ within you will say: “Oh my God are you going to talk to the assembly; you have never done that, don’t be silly!”

Silence the VOJ by going forward and doing it. You will definitely feel great. Keep a journal and start writing the three positive things about you each day. Appreciate the best in you.

You can paste an optimistic sticky note each day your personal space, such as, ‘You are beautiful.’ Admire and celebrate your strengths and talents.

Every morning look at the mirror and say ‘I love you’ to the other you. What other people say or think will have less impact because you know who you are better than any of them.

4. Be the Source of Positive Energy

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” – Oprah Winfrey

The 5 Secrets of Self Confidence

Make others feel good. Rejoice in other people’s successes. We are miserly in appreciating others. We tend to think that our compliments would make them arrogant.

But psychology says praising others boosts your self-confidence, wipes away negative feelings such as jealousy and resentfulness.

Appreciate your colleague on her presentation skills. Compliment your neighbour on their front yard rose plants.

According to the Mayo Clinic, positive thinking is linked to a wide range of health benefits including longer life span and less stress. One study of 1,558 older adults found that positive thinking could also reduce feebleness during old age.

So compliment others. Surround yourself with positive people, positive remarks, and a lot of positive energy.

5. Be Prepared

“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.” – Arthur Ashe

The 5 Secrets of Self Confidence

Be prepared. Whatever the upcoming occasion you are to attend, be well prepared.

Planning ahead gives you plenty of advantages. You are informed and fully prepared. You don’t need to worry about the creased dress or an embarrassment of an unplanned presentation.

Taking the time to plan, organise, research and gathering information, can make an enormous difference towards your performance.

Always arrive 10 minutes early. Pre-preparation will make you more comfortable and confident and make a lasting positive impact on people around you.

Actress, Vivica A. Fox says: “A great figure or physique is nice, but it’s self-confidence that makes someone really sexy.”

Just look out for people with self-confidence. How do they carry themselves, what makes them seem confident, what is that little thing that sets them apart from the rest?

Just observe. You need not copy them blindly. Believe us, like any fashion trend, one style may not suit everyone.

Find inspiration and create your own style of being self-confident.

Shameela is a creative journalist, researcher and published author from Sri Lanka. holding a Masters in Journalism and a Masters in Sociology, she's reading for her MPhil. An aficionado of Arts and Literature, she loves Rumi's quote “Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion.”

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