Golden Rules of Sex according to Ayurveda

Sex for reproduction or pleasure has its boundaries when it comes to Ayurveda. According to the practice, there are a set of golden rules that should be followed for sexual harmony.

A balanced and healthy sex life can improve intimacy and create a mutual understanding between couples.

According to an article by Dr Rahul Gupta, Ayurveda believes in a sex life surrounded by health and satisfaction, in line with the rhythms of nature.

With this in mind, various Ayurvedic books and journals explain that a healthy sex life can be a reality for couples, provided they diligently follow the golden rules.

We bring you a selection of the golden rules of sex, according to Ayurveda.

Have sex only with a committed partner

Monogamy is important to Ayurveda and, according to Ayurvedic books and journals, loyalty and faithfulness are what keep a relationship going.

Infidelity and adultery are crimes that lead to an imbalanced sex life.

Therefore, having sex with a committed partner helps to keep the chemistry alive.

Avoid sex during the female’s menstrual cycle

Ayurveda believes that a couple should refrain from having sex during the female partner’s menstrual cycle.

According to health experts, having sex while the female is having her period can cause endometriosis.

Endometriosis is the result of the endometrial cells growing outside the uterus, and often in either the ovary or the fallopian tubes.

Therefore, Ayurveda believes that no sex, while the female is having her period, can contribute to a healthy sex life.

Have sex when your private parts are clean and healthy

Before having sex, Ayurveda believes that both a man’s and a woman’s intimate areas must be kept clean, healthy and groomed.

Clean and healthy private parts play a key role in preventing infections and associated complications, both for the man and the woman.

According to Ayurveda, keeping your intimate areas clean helps to create a healthier and happier sex life.

No sex during pregnancy or after delivery

Ayurveda is against a couple having sex both during pregnancy and immediately after delivery.

According to Ayurveda, having sex two to three months after a natural delivery, or five months after a C-section can help to ensure the woman has recovered well enough to engage in sex.

Therefore, a period of abstinence can ensure a healthy sex life.

Only have sex using sexual organs

Ayurveda strongly believes in having sex using sexual organs only.

As well as for hygienic reasons, Ayurveda says no to oral sex as it is not a ‘harmonising’ act.

Men are traditionally seen as ‘solar’, and women as ‘lunar’. However, a man’s genitals are lunar, while a woman’s are solar.

Therefore, a lunar woman seeking to unite with a man’s lunar genitals is, energetically speaking, not a harmonising act.

With this in mind, Ayurveda says oral sex and pleasures which are of similar nature are out of the question.

No sex on an empty stomach or after a heavy meal

Having sex on empty stomach or after a heavy meal can, according to Ayurveda, cause a multitude of health issues.

It can cause a Vata and Pitta imbalance, which can lead to a number of digestive problems such as headaches and gastritis.

Sexual activity can also lead to an increase in heart rate at a time when it needs to be resting.

Ayurveda also says that no empty calories should be consumed either, such as diet sodas.

No violent sex

According to Ayurveda, sex should soothe the soul rather than scar it.

As a result, any kind of violence, unwanted aggression or force is completely against the Ayurvedic way.

Ayurveda is directly opposed to violent or aggressive sex.

Violence during sex is not healthy and, according to Ayurvedic texts, can hinder a man or a woman’s sex life significantly.

No sex on significant days

Ayurveda disagrees with having sex on days of prime significance.

These can be in the case of festivals, eclipses, or on nights with a full or new moon.

Having sex on significant days can create an imbalance in a couple’s sex life, leading to a less healthy one in the future.

No sex with aged women or children

Ayurveda is strictly against the idea of having sex with aged women or with children, according to the article written by Dr. Rahul Gupta.

Women of a younger or older age are more prone to health implications due to the frequent hormone changes their bodies experience.

Therefore, Ayurveda says that sexual partners must not be too old or too young in order to maintain a healthy sex life.

Both partners must be in a comfortable position

According to Ayurveda, both partners should be in a comfortable position when engaging in sexual intercourse.

This is to ensure that the sex is enjoyed by both parties.

Ayurveda also says that comfortable sexual positions also reduce the risk of injury.

The ideal sex position

The ideal sex position, according to Ayurveda, is where the woman is lying with her face directed in an upward position.

The man should also be on top when performing this position.

Ayurveda believes that this ‘ideal’ sex position allows the desires of both partners to be satisfied.

This position can also result in the couple’s sexual intimacy being more exciting.

Avoid having sex if you are unwell

According to Ayurvedic journals, you should never have sex if you are physically and/or mentally unwell.

Having sex while unwell can drain the body of energy, slowing down the recovery process. Close contact with a sexual partner can spread an illness to them too.

Ayurveda says that sex is also more passionate when both partners are physically and mentally healthy.

No sex with animals

As per Ayurveda, the concept of bestiality (engaging in sex with animals) is considered unhealthy.

Your sex life is governed by the seasons

According to Ayurveda, your sex life is governed by the four seasons, as your body strength changes during these times.

Ayurveda says that you should have less sex during the monsoon and summer, where your body strength is lowest. Once in 15 days is recommended.

However, with moderate body strength, sex is advised once in three days during spring and summer.

Body strength is at its peak during the winter months. Therefore, sex can be had daily.

There are many rules advised by Ayurveda that are believed to improve a couple’s sex life.

This selection of golden rules shows how Ayurveda has its way of promoting sexual wellbeing.