“There were so many issues I had with myself.”
The speculation around Karan Johar’s sex life has always been juicy Bollywood gossip.
The successful Indian filmmaker recently decides to reveal his sexual insecurities in his column with NDTV.
In the article titled ‘I Don’t Get Sex – And I’m No Longer Trying’, KJo openly admits his insecurities and the difficulties he had growing up regarding sex.
He mentions how he grew up sexually uninformed as his parents were reserved.
He also declares that he lost his virginity at the age of 26, after the release of the much loved Bollywood classic Kuch Kuch Hota Hai (1998).
But KJo was frustrated at the lack of proper information because he had no siblings or friends that could educate him on the matter, which is an issue that many Asians can still relate to today.
He writes: “Since I didn’t grow up in a sexually informed, involved or enlightened atmosphere, by the time 26 rolled around, there were all kinds of silly notions that had crept in my head like having the lights off.
“In fact, I remember politely asking the person I was engaging with if we could ‘start the process’!
“There were so many issues I had with myself. I wasn’t happy with my body, wasn’t entirely comfortable in my own skin.”
The 44-year-old director goes on to confess that he was once invited to an orgy, but he declined.
Karan says: “I’m not chasing sex anymore. If someone wants to chase me, they can certainly go for it. I can’t do it.”
As expected, his article received a huge reaction. One might agree that it is very difficult for a celebrity, especially an Indian celebrity, to come out and speak openly about their sex life.
While most of his fans feel predominantly positive about his honesty, others criticise him for having ‘no decency’.
There have been many rumours in the past regarding Karan’s sexual orientation, with people implying he is bisexual or homosexual.
In a 2011 TV show with Simi Garewal, the elegant hostess asked Karan about his relationship status to which he responded: “I am too worried to commit. I have not been in a relationship.”
He further commented on his sexual orientation stating:
“It doesn’t bother me when people speak to me about my sexual orientation… Why should I say I am not gay or I am not bisexual or trisexual?”
This caused an uproar due to the sensitivity of the topic in Asian culture, with many people suggesting he was attempting to be ‘Western’.
However, in 2014, on his TV chat show ‘Koffee With Karan’, he confessed to Akshay Kumar that there was only one woman he loved.
That woman was Akshay’s wife Twinkle Khanna, whom he grew up with and had known since the age of six.
He said: “The only woman I thought I was in love with was your wife. I was madly in love with her.”
KJo even named Tina’s character in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai after her.
Although KJo may feel that he hasn’t had enough sex in his life, he still believes in the intimate and sweet moments. He concludes his article by saying: “The sharing will always be more exciting to me than the act itself.”
It is not uncommon in the Asian society for individuals to feel they cannot speak openly about sex related issues, as it is frowned upon or in most cases, not taken seriously.
Attitudes surrounding sex is considered to be a taboo topic. Discussion amongst each other is usually prohibited between parents and children in Asian culture.
Many parents shy away from educating and speaking to their children about sex. As a result, young people resort to other means and educate themselves through books, magazines and the Internet.
Karan Johar’s honesty and courage about such a sensitive topic has gathered him a lot more respect. His candidness is definitely refreshing!