"Feeling pursued can be a very sexy change, and it can also be a huge ego boost."
The nature of sexual fantasies is that they push you and your partner’s boundaries.
They allow you to imagine yourself in situations that occur infrequently, if at all, and let you explore the depths of your desires.
Fantasies are fantasies because they are not reality; they are often taboo or rub up against social barriers.
For men, having your sexual fantasies come true is like finding a pot of gold, it’s unique, and in many cases, sexual fantasies can really up spice up a relationship.
Men tend to have core thematic fantasies that they can return to again and again.
And then there are fantasies that they would enjoy in the way they surf TV; exploring what catches their eye or their mood often referred to as ‘in the moment kind of a thing’.
DESIblitz brings you 5 sexual fantasies most men would love.
1. Female Dominance
Otherwise known as putting your partner in charge. Perhaps one of the simplest of men’s sexual fantasies is just having your sexual partner directing the sex script for the night.
Whether it is a full-on dominatrix or simply a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it, most men thrive off a confident sexual woman.
Dr. Laura Berman, a sex expert and author of Loving Sex: The Book of Joy and Passion, explains:
“It can be tiresome to always feel like the pursuer. Feeling pursued can be a very sexy change, and it can also be a huge ego boost.”
20-year-old Majid comments: “My partner and I have a great sex life because we both try things we both want to do, she is very vocal and can take charge and to me, that’s very sexy.”
What can be better than one woman? Naturally the answer should be nothing, but in this case, it’s two.
Threesomes are once again a common yet one of the biggest fantasies any man could have. Chances are good that dreaming about a threesome is on the list of every man’s sexual desires.
But again for most men this seems like just a harmless fantasy, some women might surprise men that they are in a relationship with a threesome but again that is very unlikely unless pre-discussed.
28-year-old Aman says: “I’ve had two threesomes in my life, one was with two random girls and that was great because I didn’t know them so it wasn’t awkward.
“But the other was with my then girlfriend at the time and her friend and although the night was great, the aftermath wasn’t.”
The trick is to make sure that if you have a threesome with a partner then the third person should be a stranger, to avoid any awkwardness.
Performing sexually in a public setting is also among men’s favourite sexual fantasies. Fantasies about having sex in public and being watched or discovered can fuel a man’s sexual desires.
This is one area in which men and their partners should be careful about acting out fantasies.
Sex and nudity in public places can lead to series legal consequences.
Videotaping sex play for later viewing could provide the same kind of titillation with less risk, but only if both parties are consenting to it.
Mahmood, a grad student, shares: “The most dangerous place I’ve had sex at is probably a restaurant restroom.
“We both were in the mood so decided to go for it, it was thrilling because we really had to be quick and quiet at the same time.”
So if you are one of the more adventurous folks maybe a little planning would go a long way.
For some, a strong men’s sexual fantasy involves dressing up and playing out new roles and storylines.
Heterosexual men might favour the character parts of strong men encountering attractive women.
This is why Halloween is the perfect time to explore this sexual fantasy, and one of the most common sexual fantasies involving dressing up is ‘Slutty Nurse and Naughty Doctor’.
25-year-old Farhan says: “My girlfriend loves dressing up, so one day I got home and she was wearing Lara Croft’s costume and took me by surprise, I mean it was sexy as hell, and ever since we dress up more often now.”
5. Male Domination
While some men enjoy female dominance others do enjoy playing the male dominant role.
For some men, the fantasy of having total power over their partner in a sexual situation can be quite arousing.
These types of men’s sexual fantasies can also include bondage and sadomasochistic elements that blend pain with sexual arousal.
They can also merge into fantasies of role-playing, exhibitionism, and voyeurism, depending on how you script them.
24-year-old Aliyah, a university graduate, says:
“My boyfriend loved the whole Fifty Shades thing so much that we played some games where he took control. He has a whip and blindfold and sometimes makes me call him ‘Sir’. He’s like my Christian Grey.”
During dom/sub roleplay, some women find that they enjoy playing the submissive role.
Other sexual fantasies enjoyed by men can include fetish, male submission or watching sex with their partner.
If you are looking to explore ways that can help improve the quality of your sex life, then try some of these sexual fantasies.
They might just open a new world of sexual pleasure for you and your partner.
For men, having your sexual fantasies come true is like finding a pot of gold, it’s unique, and in many cases, sexual fantasies can really spice up a relationship.