Premature Ejaculation is a common unmentionable condition that exists among many British Asians. But there are some methods to prevent it from affecting your sex life.
There is help for British Asian men with Premature Ejaculation.
Premature Ejaculation, also known as PE, refers to the scenario where the man during sex ejaculates very quickly with very little sexual activity or contact.
This lack of control does leave many men feeling very distraught and more anxious about their sexual capability or performance. Sex experts tend to say that PE is caused by early conditioning.
One of the key things is the lack of awareness of proper sex education and understanding of sexual behaviour at a young age. Sex is still not an easy subject to discuss openly for most Asians and within the family, it is definitely not a casual subject matter.
Therefore, some British Asian men will not know how to appreciate sex without it being something which is taboo and not to be discussed. Especially, when it comes to problems.
Asian men are frequently known to learn about sex from their friends, colleagues, books, magazines and today, the Internet.
Leaving them with experiences of others which may not be ‘entirely true’ because how many Asian men will openly admit they are not good at sex?
PE is a problem for many British Asian men and it is a hidden issue which they will not admit to. Such men are likely to end up in relationships with dissatisfied partners, due to not seeking help, which is definitely available.
PE is more common in younger men due to inexperience. As men grow older the control does get better. But surveys show that many middle-aged men still have this problem.
Reasons for as to why it happens vary.
One of the most common reasons is anxiety and psychological reasons where the man revs himself up to ‘perform’ and finds that nerves get the better of him and PE takes over.
For some men it could be a hereditary matter, where they have always triggered fast from the onset and their fathers were most likely the same.
Some theories also associate it with over-masturbation when the man gets himself used to ‘training’ his mind to ejaculate quickly without the presence of a partner.
This can happen from a young age which affects the man with PE at a later stage.
So, how can it be treated?
There are a number of treatments available to help men with Premature Ejaculation.
We look at some of the popular ways and South Asian remedies too.
The Stop and Start Technique
This is the well-known ‘squeeze’ technique to help with PE and it requires the dedicated co-operation of the partner to make it work. It is known to have cured many men.
Developed by doctors Masters and Johnson the aim of the method is to push blood out of the penis, decrease sexual tension and delay the man’s ejaculation urge.
During sex, if the man feels the sensation to ejaculate, he must stop immediately, and get his partner to squeeze the head of his penis by placing her thumb under the head and fingers around it applying pressure with the focus on the underside tube of the penis, known as the urethra.
After about 5-10 seconds, resume sex and then repeat at least 3 or more times when the urge to ejaculate is felt again. Thereafter, allow ejaculation when ready. The technique should be a sensual part of the sexual time together.
Please note this cure will not be achieved quickly. Time, dedication and practice is required for this method to get results. Both partners need to aim for the benefit the ‘Stop and Start’ technique will bring in the long term.
Men need to perform ‘Kegal’ exercises to tighten the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles of the pelvic floor, which exist both in men and women.
The muscle group is the one used to cut off the flow of urine. If the man practices by starting and stopping urinating a few times, he will recognise the PC muscle – that ‘hold it’ feeling deep under his testicles.
Holding for a count of 10, then release your PC muscles to tighten them. Practice in sets of 10. Your ejaculatory control will be aided by strong PC muscles.
Medication and Drugs
By consulting a doctor, men can get medication that can be used to help severe Premature Ejaculation.
For example, a drug called dapoxetine, known as Priligy in the UK, can be taken orally before intercourse which acts as an inhibitor for ejaculation. About 70% of males with bad PE have been given this medication but note it is not a cure.
Focus on your partner
By focusing on the partner, a man can divert his own urge to ejaculate. By teasing, taking time, enjoying her and not thrusting to quickly and aggressively can help him delay his ejaculation.
Women can have multiple orgasms and by helping her have her first one, it will divert the pressure on the man to please her and will address the psychological anxiety that encourages PE. For variety, use your fingers and play with her too.
Natural Desi Remedies
A poor diet and lack of exercise can also contribute to PE. Desi and Ayurvedic remedies for PE focus on natural goodness of foods and ingredients to help the man with PE. You need to allow about 4-6 weeks to see if these remedies help.
2 tsp of Indian asparagus powder
1 cup of milk (or semi skimmed depending on preference)
Mix in the asparagus powder into the milk and boil the mixture. Drink it 2 times every day.
1 cup of milk (or semi skimmed depending on preference)
½ tsp of ginger powder
½ tsp cardamom powder
a pinch of saffron
Soak the almonds in water overnight. In the morning, peel them and grind them. Add the ground almonds, ginger powder, cardamom powder and saffron to the milk and mix it well. Drink this mixture every morning.
As part of your food intake ensure you include eggs, blueberries and cereals are included in your daily diet.
As you can see there is help for British Asian men with Premature Ejaculation and it is a case of trying the various remedies and exercises to see which one can work best.
The key thing here is being open and communicating the issue with your partner and doctor to get the help you need.
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