Arranged marriage and the matter of sex for the first time can be very anxious for couples. DESIblitz explores this intimate dilemma and provides tips to help.
It can be a very nervous time for a couple who have never ever been intimate
Despite changes and progress in South Asian culture, Arranged Marriage is still a widely practiced matrimonial activity within its communities.
Some may find it surprising that in the 21st century, this still is the case. But in fact, arranged marriage is still a means of finding partners in the UK too for many British Asians.
After the wedding, the first night of sex is something in Asian culture that produces very different experiences for couples with different knowledge levels of sex.
It can be a very nervous time for a couple who have never ever been intimate with each other prior to their marriage.
Especially, in India, Pakistan or Bangladesh, where couples may not be allowed to date or even meet before their wedding.
In India, arranged marriage is totally different for the upper middle class to high class and the lower middle class to poor people.
Lower classes tend to depend on traditional society norms, where for example, a girl who has turned 18, is seen as the perfect age to have an arranged marriage.
This increases the prospect of sexual naivety and inexperience to be a major issue for a newly married couple.
From being single to being married and sharing a bed for sex with a man or woman you have never met can be a very strange, weird, scary and anxious time for both parties, especially if they are virgins.
So, is it right to have sex on the first night of your arranged marriage and if so what is expected of you?
There are a number of points related to the first night of an arranged marriage that can have effect on the sex.
All of or some of these are likely to ring true for many who have had an arranged marriage. Whilst there will be some who have not had any such experiences because they have both grown into their relationship in loving and sexual way.
It is also common for couples to delay their first sexual encounter until a honeymoon or time-out away from families and relatives.
For every couple of an arranged marriage things will be different depending on where they are from and their background.
When it comes to first time sex, here are some special tips that can help you.
As you can see arranged marriage and sex on the first night is not a straightforward affair.
It can be very complicated for those who have no idea about sex. But it can also be difficult for those who expect something from the marital sex but do not get it.
Therefore, if you are about to have an arranged marriage or are in one already, try and make sex an enjoyable part of your relationship, not a difficult one.
Talk and communicate your inner desires and differences with your other half. Your partner can’t read your mind!
Your first experience of sex in an arranged marriage should be the start of intimacy in your marital union, which after all, is still unique to you and your partner.
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